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Why The ‘You’re Too Young To Understand’ Argument Just Doesn’t Stand Up

I have recently encountered, in various different areas of my life, an argument being thrown around by the older generation towards my own age group, that says we are ‘too young’ to be getting  involved in serious political or social issues.  Perhaps it has been one of those things where, once you notice it happening once or twice, you start to see it all over the place.  Regardless, I find so much at fault with this mentality, so many important messages to be taken from it, that it sparked a blog post within me, so here we go!

To give some context, I thought I would talk about a couple of examples of when I have directly faced an argument like this.  The first happened a couple of weeks ago.  I have been planning a concert in London for a while now, with my newly formed, diverse and ‘cutting edge’ ensemble, Hauptstimmen.  The goal of this group of classical chamber musicians is to bring our music to a wider audience, to break down boundaries that we have experienced in our world of classical music and make it an all-inclusive art form, something that everyone can share in and take something away from.  We have organised a concert ourselves in London next week (see all the details here, please come!!), and the theme of our programme is ‘war, time and death’.  I know it sounds a little dark and depressing, but actually it is really fascinating; we are going to be performing unique music that is very rarely heard, including Gideon Klein’s string trio, which was the last piece he ever wrote, just two weeks before being deported to Auschwitz.  It isn’t just going to be a concert – it is going to be a real experience, with cool lighting, sound effects and stage design, where the audience will be encouraged to feel completely at ease with drinks and snacks and also totally engaged with our performance.  In short, this is an event that we have put a lot of thought and work into and one which we think will really create huge impact.

Now, in organising this concert, finding the right venue has obviously been extremely important – the space is paramount to the whole experience, and so it was something we knew we had to get right.  We were overjoyed to find The Red Hedgehog, a cool and intimate venue with easy access in London.  When our group leader met with the venue director, she seemed totally on board and supportive of all of our ideas, so everything looked bright for us.  Two weeks ago, we received an email from this same director and let’s just say that it completely contradicted everything that had been agreed on previously and everything we are striving to achieve.  Her overarching message to us was that we were far too young to be presenting a concert that placed war as its central theme.

My initial response to the email was anger, of course, followed by a real sense of sadness.  I felt so sad because, here is a group of young musicians who are trying to do something different and creative and combine their art with important world issues, only to be shot down by someone older and with more ‘power’.  Today, after having dwelled on it for a while, I feel so strongly the error in her way of thinking!  The fact is that war and death are very much part of our world, and unfortunately this is something that is becoming  more of a scary reality everyday.  To think that only people of a certain age should be talking about it is naive; I am in my twenties and part of a generation that will have to deal with the remnants of what is left post-Trump, or with whatever the future holds for North Korea, Syria, ISIS etc.  We are exactly the ones who need to be talking about it and understanding what is happening and why – we are the ones who can help the future.  As musicians, we have such a special way of sharing these ideas.  Through music, we can reach out to people and bring people together, we can talk about fears of war and death through our playing and use music to make it relevant to everyone, no matter their age.

The second example I wanted to mention was something that I saw on a social platform a few days ago.  A friend of mine had posted an article about veganism – a topic sure to fire anyone up, I know, and of course it did.  But the most offensive response to the article, in my opinion, was from someone from a slightly older generation who advised my friend that she was too young and shouldn’t be concerned with issues like veganism, rather she should just live her life and spend her time ‘dreaming’.  I am just so confused how anyone could suggest that talking about veganism is only for people of a certain age!  What is this age, exactly? Because I am definitely not looking forward to turning this mysterious age when suddenly the weight of the world will be on my shoulders.  And, as my friend pointed out in her reply, isn’t bringing up issues such as veganism on social media exactly what ‘dreaming’ is? Dreaming of a better world, dreaming of what the future could be.  I am not purporting to be an advocate of veganism or not – that is not the point here – only that I certainly think that anyone who wants to talk about veganism, or war, or death or any other huge political or social issue absolutely can and even that we, as young people, should!

And this ‘young’ thing… I mean, I’m 26! I am not exactly a spring chicken.  I have been old enough to vote for a long time, and I have definitely held strong political views for pretty much my whole life.  I am lucky enough to live in a society where I can freely express my views, so who is to tell me, or anyone else in my generation, that I shouldn’t because I am too young?!  In fact, in recent elections, basically all the ones where shit really started to go down, it has been shown that young people really do have a voice and really do know what they are voting for and the consequences of what they are voting for – it’s the older generations that have really screwed things up for us all.

Basically, I want to make it clear that, yes, I am young and yes, that absolutely means I will continue to use my voice and my art to share ideas and fears and issues that I believe in or that I believe are important.  I hope that if young people like me are also facing this ridiculous argument from our elders – that we are too young to be concerned with these important topics – that we can feel inspired to rise above and speak even more loudly.  Age doesn’t equal power, and with our youth comes a responsibility for the future, so let’s engage with each other NOW and make the world a better place.

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Questions on How To Use Privilege

A few days ago I had a conversation with a friend which raised many striking and, I believe, important questions.  These were questions that I really don’t have answers to, and they concern a topic which I find can often be very confusing and scary.  However, as this conversation has since stayed at the foreground of my thoughts, I felt that it could be a good idea, for me as well as for anyone else who is interested in reading this, to formulate my questions here into a blog post, in the hope of gaining some clarity and perspective.

I should probably start by stating the obvious (or what I think is obvious anyway!); I am an educated white person, I grew up in a (relatively!) financially stable household, with a supportive family who have always taken an interest in politics, current/social affairs and international news, and who uphold liberal left-wing views.  I grew up with an open outlook on the world and was taught the value of equality and acceptance.  In short, I am in a position of privilege, and I feel incredibly lucky, outrageously lucky in fact, to have had the opportunities and quality of life that I have had so far.

When I look around the world today, I find it very easy to get completely baffled by social injustice.  It is hard to understand how some can have so much, have won the golden ticket of life, while others have nothing.  But it is even more difficult to understand how the few lucky ones can be so discriminatory against those who already suffer because of their social standing.   I see racism, sexism, homophobia, prejudice against people with disabilities, prejudice against particular sexual orientations and others on a daily basis, and I can’t understand what misguided, ‘fake’ information or simple lack of humanity led those people to act in those ways.

My comfy bubble of privilege is overwhelming, I don’t know what to do with it or how I should use it.  Going about my own daily life can sometimes feel incredibly trivial… practising Paganini Caprices seems pointless when I could be using my voice to fight those bigots.  My question to all you folk out there who are in the same boat as me is: how do we use our privilege to fight social injustice for a better future for our world?

I have seen the fight, I have watched people engage in debates in real life and on social media but it doesn’t seem to be working.  From my personal experience, when you try to argue with someone on Facebook or Twitter, someone who is a devout Trump supporter and in favour of the immigration ban, the transgender military ban etc. etc. it only makes them dig their heels into their beliefs more!  Sometimes it seems to me that the more criticism and backlash Trump himself gets, the harder he goes in for whatever new disastrous event he has planned next.  So, how can we, with our positions of white educated privilege, talk to these kinds of people?  How can we discuss these important issues and show them, without insulting them or angering them, that they are so wrong?  Perhaps it doesn’t have to be an argument, but rather a patient and firm education of its own?  After all, isn’t the goal in the end to break down all this social division and bring people together?

I am connected to certain people on social media which mean that I see any amount of bullshit that fits into those categories of prejudice that I mentioned above and I want to know what to do; should I just ignore it, let it slide and un-follow them – I know those people aren’t going to change their beliefs because of what I have to say to them and it most likely won’t make any difference at all – or should I try to intervene, engage in discussion/argument?  Even if it means those people want nothing more to do with me because I am a disgusting liberal to them, I have stayed true to my own beliefs and integrity so I could at least feel better within myself, right?  Do we have a duty to act when we see such nonsense? And if so, how do we even begin, what do we say?

If I am being completely honest, I think I have even felt too scared to ask these questions until now.  Somehow, in the political and social climate of today, alienation and polarisation of people feels like the biggest battle and I think this often makes us too scared to say anything at all, even if it is just to ask questions which could make us vulnerable or susceptible to criticism.

If you have any thoughts or ideas about any of the questions I have asked here, I would love to read them in the comments below.  This is a safe place where discussion is most appreciated and valued!

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The Responsibility Of Playing Very Old Music

Sometimes, when I think about what I do, it can seem a little absurd!  My fellow classical musicians and I have spent thousands and thousands of hours and dedicated our WHOLE LIVES to working on, practising and performing music that is so old it has already been played millions of times before us and, if you want to look at in a dark way as I do, probably much better than us too.  So why do we persist?! What’s the point?

 

Perhaps some of my colleagues would say that being a classical musician was a career they fell into, a childhood hobby that went too far, and they have invested far too much to give up now so may as well keep plugging away at it.  Others might passionately remark that it does not matter if this Beethoven Sonata is probably at this very moment being played by five thousand other violinists across the world and millions more before them; the music is too wonderful, we must have our chance to express it too and to keep it alive.  The more egotistical musicians out there might even disregard the countless performances given before them – surely their’s is going to be the BEST one so far, and so they have every right to give it!

 

I reckon there is a place for each of these arguments.  Somehow or other, whether by choice or because we absolutely had to, we ARE classical musicians.  We have a wonderful skill and something to say and I believe that there is a duty and room for us all in this world to say it – I have to believe that!  And even those egos may have a point; if we are going to play a piece of Bach that is over 350 years old, we have to be confident that our version will be a little different from anyone else’s, that we have a new idea to put out there and really sell it.  I remember when my teacher gave me the Tchaikovsky violin concerto to learn, I was less than thrilled.  It was so hard for me to feel excited about all the work that I was about to put into learning this piece that every other violinist in the world has already done, to hear it with fresh ears without automatically thinking of the numerous performances of it I already hear each year.  When I talked to my friend about my feelings, she told me that the point of playing the Tchaikovsky, though, was not just to learn it as everybody else has before me, to reenact the same ideas and the same music as they all have.  The point of playing it was to come up with something new and different, an interpretation that would be completely unique to me.  I absolutely loved this idea!  Playing this old ‘warhorse’ of a piece now felt like an exciting challenge to create something new out of it!  What an opportunity I had been given!

 

Sometimes I look at painters or composers or choreographers with envy; these are people who’s art will always be new and theirs alone.  They get to go to work every day and create something from nothing that nobody else could call theirs.  This always seemed so luxurious to me.  But I am realising more and more that being a classical musician is not so far away for this.  We also have to create; every day we create new ideas and find new ways of playing things, new techniques to make new sounds which are all the more exciting because we can apply them to old pieces of music in this amazing kind of new-old fusion!

 

The fact is, the music that we play may be old in it’s age, but it is not old at all in it’s relevance to us and our lives or it’s ideas or even in it’s progressiveness.  That is what is SO unbelievable about it.  You can listen to a choral movement by Bach today and still feel affected and touched, that what he was saying and writing all those years ago still matters to humanity and the world right now.  Classical music is an old art form, but it is our job as musicians to show everyone how current it really is and that is why we MUST persist in our practice and work and performances of these old giants.

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On Turning 26

Not to sound Romantic,

or anything,

But 26 IS a strange age.

One step closer to something

that feels more real each year,

yet much further from those bygone flirtations with worriless, happy days .

 

Is this when I am supposed to start really living?

Things never happen quickly enough!

I can’t find the right words in time,

nor soak up enough knowledge like a sponge.

When I am not moving I feel completely stuck,

but really it’s just that I am standing still.

 

Perhaps, then, I should now start to slow down instead,

I have been told this before;

take your time!

don’t overthink!

don’t care so much!

But HOW, when there is just SO much to do and I am already so far behind?!

 

Forgive me, I am not a poet.

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The Absolute Joy Of Fantastic Colleagues

A few years ago, I attended a talk given by cellist/composer Philip Sheppard, which was titled ‘Advice for Young Musicians’.  He has since condensed this talk into a written article, which I will have linked down at the end of the post if you want to check it out.  In his talk, Sheppard shared many interesting and inspiring thoughts on all things related to being a musician and making yourself a success in this world; he gave tidbits of advice on how to manage your life as a musician and a business, what issues you just don’t need to stress over and what deserves a little more time and care and practical ways to achieve your goals.

As a young student, I was always a little wary of lectures that were obligatory (actually I am still wary of ANYTHING obligatory…!).  But I was totally surprised to discover how refreshing Sheppard was, how relevant and futuristic his advice was to me and my fellow classmates and I am continually surprised at how often I have since referred back to some of the things he said.

There was one point on his list, however, that really stuck out to me: I have never forgotten it and have thought of it on a regular basis.  He said that, as musicians, we should always work with people who are better than we are.  At first I immediately thought, but won’t that give me a never-ending feeling of insecurity, a fear of being constantly inferior to my colleagues and never quite feeling good enough? Actually, though, I think that this piece of advice is genius!

When we work with people that we know are not really as good as we are, we get comfy: there is no need to stretch ourselves, we are already in the top position and we can relax!  Maybe this sounds kind of nice at first, but when you really think about it, how fulfilling can this work ever be?  What is there left to achieve or strive for?  It seems to me that a job working with colleagues that we can’t learn anything from is extremely limited; there will never be room to grow or go anywhere.  And I can definitely say, having been in this position, that life like this gets miserable very quickly!

I have just returned from two weeks of working intensively with my new quartet and I am beyond excited!  If I wasn’t so jet-lagged I think I would have trouble staying still in my seat! I can say, without any doubts whatsoever, that my new colleagues are all definitely very much better than me and I am so inspired!  I have found that I am fast becoming better too, as working with colleagues that are so great at what they do means I have to constantly reach for more within myself, show my best side of myself, be on top of my own game all the time to meet what they offer me and continually try to throw the ball back at them too.  And the result of all this? I feel incredibly happy and content, I feel exhausted after working so hard, I am artistically fulfilled and am inspired to keep going, searching for more.

I have finally understood Sheppard’s point.  Working with colleagues that are better than we are, whatever your field of work, is SO important; for our own work, for our lives, for our emotional souls!  The circle of inspiration breathes very much more deeply when we are looking upwards instead of down.

Exhausted, sweaty but INSPIRED and HAPPY and CONTENT after the first concert with my new quartet!

See Philip Sheppard’s article here!

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Update!

I am really excited to share with you that I have finally moved my blog over to wordpress!  There’s nothing quite like a good old spring clean, and this feels like the mother of all (metaphorical) clean slates.  My life as a musician and blogger finally feels beautifully connected and I can’t wait to get back into my full blogging routine!

On this site, you will find all my usual blog posts in their normal categories, and you will also be able to catch a glimpse of what I’m up to in my musical life; what projects I’ve got going on, concerts coming up, travel plans etc.  Everything else will all stay the same, but do make sure to subscribe and follow me on my social media so you don’t miss out on anything!

For now though, must get back to packing; I’m travelling to Seattle tomorrow for two weeks of Beethoven Quartets and I CAN’T WAIT.

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Why The Present Isn’t Enough


The notion of ‘living in the present moment’ seems to be a very popular one.  I hear it offered as a piece of advice ALL the time; ‘try to live more in the NOW’, ‘savour the present’, ‘don’t think too much about the past or the future, just enjoy this moment’.  And while I can see that there are many good qualities in trying to live this way, with this mentality, I also feel that there is a lot missing from it.  I can definitely agree that it is a good thing to take each moment as it comes and not worry so much about what’s to come or what has already happened.  Of course it’s wonderful to feel that sense of letting go, to just concentrate on what is happening right now, today, and enjoy it.  But can we really live like that all the time?

In reality, there are so many situations where simply living in the present is NOT the best solution. Perhaps we have to do a job that we hate.  Maybe we are going through a particularly stressful period; for example, we might have fought with a friend, we could be having a financial crisis, moving house (always an extremely stressful experience), waiting for hours in an airport for a delayed flight or dealing with any number of other difficult issues.  It’s pretty much impossible to ‘enjoy the moment’ in any of these situations, and if we tried, we would only be miserable!  And what about when we are at the beginning of a new chapter in our lives?  It could be that we have just moved somewhere new and don’t have any friends there yet, or that we are starting a new project or learning something new and don’t yet have the hang of it.  What is it that keeps us motivated to keep going at times like these?

In my opinion, the promise of a bright future is absolutely fundamental.  We can go through hard times because we know that something good can come out of it.  To have hopes and dreams is so important and, even more than this, having something to look forward to is, I think, one of the best ways to lift you up when you feel low.  I spend so much time making plans and I love it!  I love putting future ideas into action, writing things into my calendar, organising exciting projects that will take place a few months from now.  As I look out of the window today and see the grey clouds and the rain, and having only the prospect of going to the gym and doing some difficult practice in my schedule, I am SO happy to know that I have many wonderful things happening in my life in the next few weeks and months.  For me, today is not enough.  I need the promise of the future.  Ironically, it is when I am busy making my future plans, that I am REALLY enjoying the present moment!

Similarly, everybody says it doesn’t do well to dwell too much on the past, and I get that – you can’t change it, what’s done is done.  But, in some ways, the past can also really help us, and sometimes mulling it over is not a bad thing.  Remembering happy times or successful times, thinking back on beautiful memories, laughing again at something funny that happened a year ago – these are all fantastic and essential for the soul and why not think about them often!  Learning from our past mistakes is also only beneficial if we want to progress in our lives.  Remembering how things went wrong last time, so that we may do them right the next, is such a useful and simple trick! 

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t make the most of each day, or that we should forget about trying to enjoy our current situations.  I just mean that there is much more to it than that.  We need things to look forward to just as much as we need our memories and histories.  In fact, I think that it is only with these elements, that we can actually enjoy living in this moment, right now. 

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Searching For Hygge

If you haven’t heard of the Hygge craze yet, and that would be ASTONISHING as it seems to have taken over the entire ‘first world’ in the last few months, then let me fill you in.  Hygge, pronounced ‘hoo-gah’, is a Danish philosophy and lifestyle – incidentally, it is a word which cannot be translated into English, which perhaps says something about our real need for it?  Anyway, Hygge is all about the art of living well, living comfortably, finding inner peace and tranquillity within your surroundings.  Sounds idyllic, doesn’t it?

Well, I certainly thought so too.  Having now read a book on Hygge, I think I am pretty well-versed in the laws of this lifestyle, and everything about it sounds absolutely wonderful; a house filled with cosy blankets, beautiful lamps and candlelight, holidays in wooden cabins with friends, gorgeously elegant clothes, freshly baked bread, riding bikes through the sunny countryside…  My life suddenly feels incredibly un-Hygge-ish and I’ve decided to write a blog post about my search for it, for this magical state of being which will ultimately give my life a new-found meaning.

Firstly, I must get used to low light, lamps and candles – having the main over-head lights on at home is totally anti-Hygge and ruins the beautiful ambiance of dimmer lights.  The only problem is that I have terrible eyesight and my entire work consists of reading music, books or looking at my computer, all of which are impossible for me without the main lights on.  Hmm, well, I suppose it is still winter time – maybe I will let this one go for now and revisit it when the days are brighter and lighter for longer in the summer.

OK, I must now go through my wardrobe and get rid of all the sub-quality, and therefore un-Hygge, clothes.  I’m only going to keep beautiful knitwear, expensive fabrics, perfectly tailored trousers… After staring in despair at the contents of my wardrobe for a while, I’ve realised that doing this would leave me with virtually nothing!  OK – I’ve decided that my resolution from now on will be to save my money and ONLY buy the BEST quality clothes from independent designers who use only organic materials.  It could mean that I will only get to buy one new item every ten years, but hey, I’m searching for Hygge and Hygge is worth it.

From reading my book on Hygge, it seems absolutely fundamental and of utmost importance to Hygge-matise ones house if one is really serious about living in Hygge.  My Hygge house should have unique hand-crafted furniture, a perfect place for each of my things and, of course, no clutter or mess.  Looking around, I see the cupboard in the hall with the loose shelf, the wardrobe who’s doors are propping it up, the shelves that are dangerously leaning to the left… Well, there is nothing I can do about any of those except hope that everything stays UP until I move to my next place, when I will get ALL NEW and perfect furniture.  But, I have to say, I think my house is doing OK on the Hygge front.  Most things have their place, we’ve got some very nice rugs (must be Hygge), a soft fleece blanket on the sofa (very Hygge), lots of pictures on the walls – yes, I’m pretty convinced that apart from the furniture and the stack of empty wine bottles, I’ve managed to find Hygge at home.

I know that to really live a life of Hygge, though, it’s not just about how you make your home – it’s about where you go, the places you visit and who you see them with.  Hygge is all about weekends away in the snowy mountains, spas or at the beach with friends.  This should be easy for me – I love to travel.  Except that I can usually only afford to stay in cheap hostels or hotels when I go away, and I’ve always got to stay somewhere that will be able to facilitate me with a space to do my violin practice; those scales aren’t going to practise themselves, although they aren’t the most Hygge noise… Then there’s the issue of convincing my friends, who all lead their own busy lives, to fix dates for holidays where the aim is to sit quietly in each others company, no Twitter, no emails, no YouTube – this could be near impossible.  Well, I’ll suggest it at some point anyway and see what happens.

My conclusion?  I hope that you have all gathered that this post was intentionally ironic!  I gave my sense of humour a little freedom to come out here and I hope that it didn’t offend anyone.  The truth is that Hygge really is a philosophy that seems to be very heartwarming and lovely, civilised and something we can strive to look for in everyday life.  But, for me, that is exactly where the problem with Hygge lies – it is so far away from daily struggles, it’s not REAL life – it’s like an edited version of life you might see on Pinterest or Instagram, with only the bits that look perfect on the surface (and that are very expensive to create)!  I get why the Hygge trend has become so fashionable and why everyone is talking about it – I’m sure we all want beautiful homes and clothes and expensive holidays, but, for most of us, that’s just not realistic.  I feel that instead of trying to achieve this ‘fake’, Instagram-worthy lifestyle, we should concentrate instead on making the absolute best of what IS real, what we really do have in our lives, because we are so very lucky to have what we have already.  

Today, I am throwing this bloody book on Hygge away, I hope all of you will do the same, and instead I’m going to focus on the things that are truly meaningful and important. 

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Love Is…

Finding the excitement in every day.

Accepting when you are wrong about something, that there is a better idea.

Opening your mind and reaching further than you thought you could.

Being awoken in the middle of the night and saved from your nightmare.

Acting grumpy when you feel grumpy because, with them, you can.  No fake smile required.

Wearing your heart on your sleeve.

A process, figuring stuff out.

Having a secret language.

Feeling incredibly worried at times.

Realising that there could be something much more important and significant in your life than you might see at first glance.

Having a glass of wine brought to you.

Patience.

Allowing your life to be led in new and unplanned directions.

Making big decisions.

Knowing the meaning behind a look.

Choosing the important stuff, and leaving everything else behind.

Feelings that I don’t know about yet.



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Solitude Vs Loneliness

Over the past few days I’ve been thinking a lot about being ‘alone’ and what exactly that means to me.  This won’t be a long blog post – actually, I am writing it as I am spending a glorious evening by myself and I have a lot to fit in tonight – but I wanted to get my thoughts down before I forget them because I do think that this is an issue that conflicts many people.


I feel that, in our society, there is a huge stigma attached to people who choose to be by themselves.  One doesn’t often see a person eating alone in a restaurant, attending a movie by themselves or taking a trip alone.  In fact, when we do see somebody alone in a (typically) social setting, we might even feel sorry for them, sorry that they don’t have anybody to share that experience with.  Sometimes, it seems to me that every single thing about how a person portrays their lives, either by recounting stories to their friends or uploading their personal pictures on social media, is based and judged purely on who they live with, who shares their lives.  We only see the most smiley and happy-looking group photos of people surrounded by hundreds of best friends and others who look lovingly at them.  We hear only about the parties and the events and the busy social agendas…

But what about those who really choose to be alone?  Choose to live life in blissful solitude?  They make decisions only for themselves, don’t ever have to compromise, live their lives exactly as they want and answer only to themselves.  They may eat in whatever unruly (or sophisticated) manner they choose, always leave the bathroom door open, spend their free time doing exatly what they want.  Isn’t there something about that to be rather envious of?  Doesn’t it seem empowering to be so in control of your own life?

Of course, I understand that loneliness can be one of life’s most evil villains, and that there are people who find themselves alone, not out of choice, and who are suffering.  There are solutions to this kind of loneliness; my lovely aunt just shared an article today, written by a 90-year-old man who has come up with some really great tips on how to combat loneliness (I will link this article below!).  But when I really think about it, I know that the loneliest people I have ever met in my life have been the ones totally surrounded by the most adoring fans, the ones with vast social networks and continuously beeping phones.

So, to anyone that is feeling lonely, or worried about their chosen lifestyles, whether they are social butterflies or not, I encourage you to find the solitude in your lives.  It is definitely something that I place huge value on in my personal life; I seek out my private moments and look forward to them.  This doesn’t mean that we don’t love our friends, or that we don’t also like to spend time with people.  I mean only that the happiness that we can create for ourselves can be just as wonderful.

Tips for loneliness article

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